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What Makes An Average Looking Guy Instantly Become “Hot”?

FBShareNew6270If you talk to any number of super hot girls and approach them, you will start to see one thing over and over – she is going to test you. If you fail these tests, you will not hook up with her. Period. You will join the piles of men she’s had to reject because they weren’t confident enough.

The GOOD news is that there is a way to pass these tests nearly 100% of the time.

Most really hot girls’ tests are enough to make men run away with their tails between their legs. If you know the technique to passing, then you are going to be in the VERY small percentage of guys who make it through her defenses and are actually a sexual candidate.

If you don’t know this one secret technique, you will fail these tests and never gain entrance into the world of attracting and sleeping with truly beautiful women.

These tests can be one of two types: compliance tests or congruence tests. Today, we are talking about compliance tests. First, let me explain a bit more about these tests and WHY hot women NEED them.

A compliance test is an act or a statement that checks to see if you are going to do whatever she wants. If you comply, she will have gained control over the conversation, the interaction, and you. It seems like they want you to fail these tests so they have the power, right?

Fortunately, that is not the case. When women give compliance tests, they really do want you to pass them. It is their way of filtering out a truly confident, attractive guy from the rest. It may sound strange, but beautiful women honestly can’t just look at a guy an say “he’s good looking, therefore he’s attractive.” They need much more because they are approached by so many different types of guys. A really attractive girl will get hit on 10-15 times A DAY.

That’s 3,650 times a year (conservatively) that an attractive woman is hit on. She will start to see patterns in the ways guys behave if they are actually confident or not, and that has nothing to do with looks.

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The compliance test is really a test to see whether or not they’re going to be able to get away with whatever they want. Why you want to test this? Well, they want to find out whether or not you’re used to beautiful women hitting on you or whether or not you’re used to being with beautiful women.

This is a very crucial concept. If you are used to being with beautiful women, you will not bend over backwards for a beautiful woman just because she wants something. Instead, you will respond in a way that sort of puts the compliance back on her.

Beautiful women are guaranteed to give you compliance tests and if you fail the compliance tests, you are guaranteed not to attract them. So it’s very crucial that you learn this.

How do you recognize compliance tests? Basically, look for any demand that she gives you within a short time of meeting that seems small, but gets you to follow.

One very classic compliance test is “buy me a drink.”

Women go for the throat here when you’re in the bar because they don’t have a whole lot of time to figure out who is attracted, who is confident, and who’s not. How you respond to “buy me a drink” is very crucial when you’re in a bar.

There are other small things like “why don’t you wait here while I go to the bathroom.” or “give me a kiss on the cheek” or even “will you take a picture for us?”

Anything that seems kind of harmless is typically a compliance test especially if it’s from a really beautiful woman and you don’t want to deny the compliance test, what you want to do is take control over it and add your own terms.

For example, if someone says, “Take our pictures.” Then you will say, “okay, I will but I want you to take one picture for you and one picture of how I ask you to take it.” So if they refused to do this, and you go, “Alright, well find some other guy.”

You will actually find some other guy to take the camera and say, “Hey man, can you take their picture?” And you just have them take your picture.

But usually they will say okay fine, you take the picture and you go “okay, now I want you to give me a sexy look.” Then take their picture. “Okay now, make a silly face”, take a picture. And continue to make them do different pictures as long as you can think of them.

Essentially what you’re doing now is you are getting compliance from them. This is crucial. This is called flipping the script and you will hear a lot about this.

Flipping the script is one of the most powerful things that you can do to a woman that you don’t know and it will create a massive amount of intrigue and a massive amount of attraction that will be built.

So from now on, know and recognize when women are giving you a compliance test. Don’t stop and don’t reject the compliance test. Add your own terms.

When you start doing this, you are going to see that truly beautiful women in the bar start to treat you in a completely different way.

You can actually watch other guys approach, get shot down and see it ruin their nights as you can easily navigate the sea of compliance tests and come out looking like a rockstar, making her more and more attracted to you since you’re the kind of guy who won’t just do exactly what she wants.

This is one of the “Sexual Triggers” that drive beautiful women wild. The rest of them are revealed in this presentation:

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  • Vashon

    Great information here. Keep up the good work!

  • Aubrey

    Great reads! Found the article enticing all the way through and would recommend to anyone. Good job!

  • I think you hit the nail on the head! And that’s coming from someone who hits the nail often! Lol. But it’s a fine line between confidence and arrogance!

    • Andrew

      “But it’s a fine line between confidence and arrogance!”
      …..That is exactly what I thought about this article! Not to mention the comma catastrophe taking place here. But it’s okay–it is an article about “attractive” women not “intelligent” women (unless these adjectives are synonymous). :)

  • Mark Littleton

    Great blog! Very useful information especially for guys that havent dated a whole lot. Keep up the good work!

  • Zack

    Interesting and I agree. This should help me in the future.

  • Dan

    Very informative blog. Guys could learn a lot from the tips in it!

  • Phil

    Great blog! I’m hooked!

  • Will

    I will use what i learn hear an hopefully maybe ill have better luck

  • Deon

    Very informative , thanks for giving this info !!

  • Jay migliorie

    This is well written, great job;)

  • Kasey

    This is some good info!!!

  • Nico

    Pretty good blog

  • Daniel Ramirez

    Hi Michelle, I got to say this was an awesome blog to read. It is very helpful for guys like me.

  • Sayge Scott Spracklin

    I think you put this blog together in the most intelectual way. I think in a way it kinda pit me in check a little bit :)
    Amazing stuff

  • Zack D

    Great info, but a lil short on how exactly should take that next step, it may be the feeling to be intrigued that starts a woman for interesting conversation but if a man uses this blog for that one step, then of course the man are never use to beautiful women

  • Stephan

    Great blog

  • Nicholas

    While this is well written and insightful, its basic premise fundamentally requires me to assert that agreeing with the concept you have introduced is contrary to it’s message.

  • Jeremy

    Very helpful. I like the blog

  • Nathan

    Well said, I believe it’s spot on. Thank you for the information; it’s great!

  • Connell

    Write more!!!! It’s deffiently one of the best arrivals I’ve read in a while. I spend most of my day reading things online and this really did entertain me.

  • Nathan Owens

    Unfortunate, I should have read this a long time ago!

  • Paulo

    Awesome stuff you got here.

  • Jordan Brandner

    Its amazing to think that women have thess “tests” to find a suitable partner where as men just go for looks.

  • Martin

    Very informative!

  • Isaiah Haley

    I loved reading this blog hope to see more!

  • Stephan Osong

    Women are very powerful creatures when they know what they are working with.

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  • Aaron

    I would have to disagree with this in part. A males primal instinct is that of a hunter and provider. It is ingrained in their DNA and can be traced back to the beginning of any social evolution. From a theological aspect its Adam leaving Eve in the garden to forage. If you prefer Darwinism, its clubbing her over the head and leaving her in the cave to go out and provide for her. For some men, self worth is contingent on the ability to bring home that “kill” and present it.

    We are long past the days of killing a bear and dragging it home for presentation (ok, maybe if you live in Arkansas [insert cousin joke here]). Today; that primal instinct is translated to, and related to, the situation. At a bar, its buying her a drink.

    The social lines have been blurred over the years though. The hunter/gatherer roles are convoluted now. “Changing Women, Unchanged Men? Sociological Perspectives on Gender in a Post-Industrial Society” by Sara Delamont does a good job at presenting the differences and changes in male/female social roles in the last half century. While women have become more independent, the male role has, for the most part, not become more dependent.

    So while a modern, post-industrial, female might view a man trying to provide for her as submissive, or lacking confidence, a confident primal male in that situation might view getting her something she asked for, such as a drink, as demonstrative of his ability to provide; touching back on his undeveloped primal instinct.

    Your theory may be implosive too. Take your picture example. Society has developed to a point where, believe it or not, a man has a greater level of selection of a partner then a woman.

    Our generation is getting married and seeking long-term relationships at a later time in life then ever before. The average age of a newly married couple as early as 25 years ago was between 19 and 24. The average age today is 35 to 38. While a woman’s fertility starts to deteriorate at around 38, males virility does not. With the greater number of potential partners at a later point in life, it gives a male the advantage of being more selective. While a woman finds herself on a timeline if she desires a family, a male does not. This shifts the desperation from the male to the female, unlike in that past.

    This also gives him the ability to filter through possible compatible partners faster and gives a smaller margin of error for females. If I go up to an attractive woman at a bar and offer to buy her a drink and she, in-turn, summarily dismisses me as submissive and undesirable, there is the, just as attractive, female behind her and there is a good chance she won’t have the same outlook.

    Female collaboration has diminished in the last century considerably. With more equal gender roles and the lack of a social ideological “normalcy” to get married and start a family young, the power of the female sex has diminished. Women have become competitors and no longer conspirators.

    The age of the desperate male is over. Anymore, a male only has to be better then his equal. With a generation of unemployed men living in their mothers basement and playing video games all day, the competition just isn’t their, giving the successful male an even greater advantage. It also could be why there is a lack of drive among younger men today then ever before. Men use to thrive to be successful to find the most desirable partner. Now, that desirable partner, on a long enough time line, will find him.

    Men are also realizing this more and more, which makes it disadvantageous for younger women. It means they don’t have to be in a hurry to hold onto that beautiful young woman at 25, because there will still be beautiful young women when he is 35.

    Now I’m not saying a man will seek out a desperate female. Desperation is unattractive in any venue. But a male will seek out the female with fewer hurtles.

  • izel

    Very nice blog i injoy reading it and hope too read more soon you have a good way of puting things and open the eye of men who are to shy or dont no how to talk to beautiful women now all lot of men will have Confidence and no the tricks of Compliance good blog cant wait to read more!!!

  • Nick

    Will definitely have to try this out. Keep these blogs coming.

  • Paul

    Good to hear a women’s point of view on how to approach you ladies. #Awesome

  • Blake

    Some fantastic advice for a very self-conscious guy who has a lot of trouble talking to the girls I day-dream about! A++

  • Neal Bertrand

    Good Advice. I’ll have to look out for those tests next time.

  • Shaun Birdsong

    Love it such a great blog

  • kevin

    Great read!!! you really know how to write. look forward to future articles

  • Ashkan

    Loved it!! Never really thought about the different types of test! Not only in bars does it happen but out in public too

  • Rhett Warmsbecker

    This was a good read. Definately some good pointers.

  • Dustin

    It was a good read. It made sence to me I will be trying this method next time.

  • Cody Jacoway

    Definitely explains things good, in a way where even people having the hardest time attracting someone, can learn from this. Great Blog!

  • Shane

    Great information and tone in the writing! A captivating read from introduction to conclusion

  • Brent

    Eye contact is huge for me. I can pretty tell what a lady is thinking just by the way she looks at me. I think it’s a nice gift I have.

  • Marcos.

    Good job keep up the good writing.
    Also really helpful

  • Tim

    Now the douchebags know the secrets too. haha Great work though. Really exceptional writing.

  • Daniel

    Great read! Really enjoyed your material! It was really fascinating and I look forward to hearing more from you;)

  • Ryan Douglas

    Very interesting. Well done Michelle!

  • Jace

    This is really awesome what you are doing!

  • Stefan

    Wow.. Great read. I was amazed from the title to the start of v the blog and picture. You kept me entertain and intrested through the whole article. And very glod topic you pic. I may be looking forward to your future blogs

  • Evil Hero

    Very nice blog. I enjoyed your point of view. I will continue to read more. Thanks for the post.

  • Chris Piemonte

    Very good info. I will now definitely be on the lookout for Compliance Tests!

  • Elliot Rodger

    If only I had read this article a few weeks ago!

  • LeVar

    This definitely gives you something to consider.

  • DW

    This is an opinion piece, I get it, but maybe with an actual study included it would sound a bit more realistic. And it seems hot-shallow girls love guys who comply, look around at the hot girl and who she’s dating, it’s not the guy who stands up for himself, it’s the guy who will hold her purse and dote all over her or the the techno dj, athlete or CEO.

    If you want an attractive/smart girl- make a career and be self sufficient, have goals, stay healthy and fit, and have confidence..that’s all, and then you can actually have an attractive, intelligent woman who’s motivated- which is a much better combination than a bimbo for the night (nothing against bimbos for the night, I mean I am still a guy).

  • Ryan


  • S

    What makes a lady “really attractive” and what’s the difference between a “really attractive” lady and a beautiful lady? Guys don’t make it to this compliance test until they pass the attraction test. Ladies, especially “really attractive” ladies look at physical characteristics before they’d bother speaking to a man so I think there needs to be additional steps to your article. I blame Sex in the City and the Bachelorette haha. Interesting article still

  • steve

    Cool blog, very informative…

  • Sam

    I really admire the way you have explained..

    Good work Michelle..

  • Enlightening. I thoroughly enjoyed the part about picture taking.

  • Dave

    Good information, Michelle. I read a lot of manosphere blogs and I’m surprised I hadn’t stumbled on to yours. I’ll be reading regularly.

  • Reallly good seeing through a woman’s view how such things are planned out and keeps you thinking. Keep it up.

  • Kris

    This article shed a little extra light on the social structure of this game.. I really enjoyed it (:

  • Kelvin

    Great Information Thanks

  • Cody

    A very intriguing topic, I would not be surprised if this actually works. As a man I will have to say , women know more about us then we are willing to admit!

  • Christopher Moisan

    You have truly created some very interesting reading. Great stuff, I look forward to reading more!

  • eric

    Nice very informative Michelle, keep up the good work!!

  • Clay

    Women have always been socially smarter than men… Sorry dudes!
    Great article!

  • Ike

    It’s great…keep it coming Michelle .

  • Mateo Marquez

    Love this. Confidence is everything.


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